Never, Ever Give Up

On Friday night, I journeyed to East Coweta High School, where my high school basketball coach, Paula Jones, is celebrating her retirement. What a career she has had and what an influence she has made on the lives of many young girls - including me over 30 years ago. From her I learned to never, ever give up - regardless of how things look. I learned that sometimes that means leaning on others - teammates, friends, family, doctors, teachers, etc etc. I learned that sometimes that means you do the same for others so that they never, ever give up. I learned that you do your part and let others do their part - and together, you will win - or sometimes simply survive the day until things look differently. I learned that you have to focus on your goals and you have to expect the best and assume the best from yourself and everyone around you. These life lessons went with our little group of 10 onto the basketball courts back then. We didn't lose much - probably no more than the fingers on one hand during the 3 years I played for her. I think it's safe to say we still don't like to lose today. I know I don't.

All of these life lessons learned from Paula still drive me. As I shared the number of hours I spend in the saddle during an average day/week for the AIDS rides, my new cycling coach said something like - "you must have incredible mental focus." I replied, "Yep." I also thought - I have a reason. I'm fighting a battle I do NOT want to lose. I want stigma to be squashed. I want an AIDS vaccine to be developed. I want lives to be saved. I want dignity for everyone. I want children to have parents. I want AIDS to lose.

Seeing Paula and her interaction with her current players during Friday night's game reminded me of the importance of having good advisers and teammates. In last year's AV200, it was teammate Susan who helped me reach the finish line by helping me focus on reaching the next rest stop instead of the end - and her words went to California and New England as well. It was Todd  who kept us laughing. It was Chip who kept the riders safe. It was Carol who cheered us along in her car. It was Julie and Deborah who kept us energized. It was Sean who amazed us by doing his first century as a double century. It was Stephen with his constant, steady encouragement, drive and humor who always seemed to know just when another rider needed him and what they needed. There were the special people, like many of you, who supported the ride with your financial gifts - the dollars that will go to work to make AIDS lose. It is funding the researchers need - and there's no way I can write a check big enough. Your support for my rides helps me on that end. We are all a team and I don't want us to lose.

So, in the drive of corporation Chevron with the slogan "AIDS is going to lose" and the "never, ever give up" life lessons from Paula, and with the support of each of you - I will enter Month 2 of training with an even deeper conviction:

AIDS, we are going to beat you.